Is anybody listening? How being a good listener can transform your life!

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I was completely blown away by this book! Kate Murphy has written a very insightful and brilliant book that clearly explains the importance of listening and how it can shape our relationships, our health and ultimately our happiness. “You’re Not Listening- What You’re Missing and Why It Matters” immediately grabbed my attention by its accurate description of modern life and society and the need to define oneself, project oneself and ultimately be the leader in conversations. Unfortunately, today very little emphasis is placed on the need to listen carefully to what is being said. Sadly, the result of society’s inability to listen is the ever increasing feeling of isolation, emptiness and loneliness.

I enjoyed how the author stressed that by paying attention to more than the words you can transform how you understand others, the world and ultimately this can enrich your relationships and your life. “Listening, more than any other activity, plugs you into life.” I thoroughly enjoyed the author’s many quotes, interviews, reflections and descriptions. I also appreciated the many thought provoking explanations such as the difference between passive hearing and active listening, the 90-9-1 rule in social media and how not listening can actually deprive us of our future potential. “Talking without listening is like touching without being touched.” “Listening is essential to our survival.”

I completely enjoyed reading this book and appreciated the authors very descriptive writing style and her inspirational look at the art of listening! This insightful book was thoroughly researched and included interviews with expert listeners from various backgrounds such as as a CIA interrogator, FBI hostage negotiator, leading neuroscientists, a bartender and a salesman, to name a few. I found this book to be inspirational, insightful, thought provoking and at times even humorous. It was definitely a fast read that totally captured and held my attention. There were so many excellent points and quotes that I eventually started writing notes in my copy of the book which I generally prefer not to do. I learned so much from reading Kate Murphy’s book. It helped me to reflect on and evaluate my own interactions when communicating with others. I look forward to applying some of her suggestions in my future interactions with family, friends and acquaintances. “You’re Not Listening, What You’re Missing and Why It Matters” definitely connected with me and influenced my future views on communicating with others. I highly recommend this book!

I would like to thank CELADON BOOKS and Kate Murphy for an advanced readers copy of this book through BookishFirst in exchange for my honest review.