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While I was reading this, several times I had to double check that this was a memoir and not a wild piece of women's literary fiction. While I know life is as chaotic as the story this book presented, I found it hard to comprehend the degree of disassociation presented here.
On the surface this is the story of a mother who was so disconnected from other adult women, that she entangled her barely teenaged daughter into her very adult affair with a married man. More than making her daughter her confidant and co-conspirator, she stole her child's years of self-discovery. That her daughter allowed this only speaks to the child's lack of maturity. Even growing up didn't seem to add self-awareness or maturity.
I would have liked to have read a bit more about the possible therapy or self-work the narrator undertook. She claimed to have finally separated herself from her mother and her mother's personality dysfunctions. I am not so sure it was other than times distancing her from the past. Time will let us forget without repairing the damage.
I'm not sure I recommend this book. It was well written, but I feel it hides more than it reveals.